Guest 10 - Its TSW

Hellow everyone!!


Our guest blogger for the day is Ste or The Solitary Writer (TSW) as we know him in the bloggy world. His association with the blog world is very old, he has been blogging since 2007!! A veteran blogger, his followers list boasts of  500+ members. Apart from being a wonderful writer , he sketches really well. From short stories to poems; from romance to humor to social issues, his range is huge!! Head over to his blog if you don't know him as yet.
He is with us to share a post on relationships. Lets hear it from him-

To love and be loved!!

'I love you, but you don't care for me,'

'You don't love me like I love you,'

 How often do you come across such statements from your loved ones? It is disheartening to hear such lines from our loved ones especially when we strive hard to make them feel special. Due to our daily activities we could not spend much quality time with them. Trust me for a good lover such words from loved ones are not soothing. Love is a special feeling. It is present in everyone just that by default it is in sleep mode. Imagine the first time when you fall in love with someone your behaviour and attitude changes. Thanks to the hormones which play a vital role in such activities. Trust me, when you are determined to fall in love and spend time with someone, you should be ready to invest some time for them. I was tramping around a garden near my house admiring the nature’s beauty. I keenly observed certain group of people. They were usually couples, of early 20's.There was one particular couple who were arguing with each other. Initially it seemed that the negotiations could be verbally resolved but the argument grew to a next level. The girl was crying and the guy disagreed to her point. He slapped her in front of small ensemble of people. Everyone looked at her. She wiped her tears and silently left with him. Never be aggressive in love. All that you need is some quality time with your loved ones. If you can never donate some valuable time for your loved one, then why fall in love? At the first step, we try our level best to impress the one we love. That is the time we should realize and think about how much time and energy we are going to invest to this relationship. Try to revert back equally when it comes to love. We should give an equal amount of love back. Problems are parts and parcel of relationship. Love is like a game where each team try to give their equal best. It shouldn't be a one sided affair.

Introspect and tell me how you feel to be in love. When you are committed to someone, be focused on small things which would make your loved one happy. Take them for a movie, dinner, a walk along a beach and do things which would make them happy and invoke a smile in their face. Not everyone is lucky enough to fall in love. Be happy that you are amongst those lucky ones to be loved by someone. If you have won someone's heart then be loyal to them and live up to their expectation. Spending some time with them will not destroy your business or profit for that matter. Make them feel special. Compliment and Appreciate each other. Will you still be the same if your lover is not around you? You will certainly miss them a lot and desperately wait for their arrival. No one would unnecessarily harbour special feelings for you. They like you, some qualities of you and certain things in you impressed them making them fall for you. First try to know if you are with the right person whom you are destined to be. In this materialistic money minded world, it might be certain that your partner might be using you as a mere trump card exhibiting fake feelings for you. A true lover's feeling would be authentic and real. Try to identify how much your partner loves you.

The Red Rose-Diamond Ring test.

Perform this test if you want to know whether your partner really loves you. Ask your partner out for a date. Buy a fresh red rose and a diamond ring for your loved one. Give them both , rose on the left hand and ring on the other. However precious a diamond ring may be, a true love would definitely pick the red rose and then take the ring. This would be your true love. It’s difficult to find genuine love in today’s scenario as I have already told that in this materialistic world people hardly care for each other. The one who passes this test would be the perfect person for you.

There might be differences and arguments, but never let your love fade away from your life. Do not dabble in love and exhibit fake feelings for your partner. If you do, then be prepared to see your loved one vanishing away from your life. You will feel jinxed and cry at your own plight. Never fall and fail in love. Sit and talk. Love is sensitive and one should never play with or even try to play with someone’s feeling. By doing so, you are breaking someone’s heart and that person may get terribly hurt. Talk with them and try to resolve the conflicts. True love lives forever and never fails. Be honest, share views and talk amiably with each other. This might help you. Care for the one who loves and make them feel special. Never argue and avoid fight especially when you are in a relationship. This is not good in long term. Never goof up things if your feelings for your partner are true. In the back of your mind, somewhere deep in your heart there lies a small area where your heart beats for your lover. Too cheesy!! After all it is great to love & be loved.

Finally, I take this opportunity to thank Swarnali for giving me a chance to write for her blog.

Signing off,

The Solitary Writer

 www.thesolitarywriter.com

thesolitarywriter.tsw@gmail.com


P.S. -  Wanted to add some color to the blog , was a little bored of the old black and white theme. 
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