“That's why they call them crushes.
If they were easy, they'd call 'em something else.”
– Sixteen Candles
Despite the line quoted
above, I still think that it’s easier to harbor crushes than have an actual
relationship. I know lots of people would disagree and dismiss the idea of
having crushes to be something juvenile and something which can only find meaning
if you’re a sixteen year old school girl. Oh well, I certainly beg to differ.
For one thing, you are
not obliged to wake up at eight am in the morning to text your
boyfriend/girlfriend, “Good morning! Have a wonderful day. J” I am not saying it’s a bad thing but you know, if
you happen to forget sending that text once in awhile – all hell will break
lose. And even if your sweetheart doesn’t say it, he/she might have nagging
insecurities about this tiny detail.
Speaking of
insecurities, when you’re simply crushing on someone finding out what they’ve
been up to and who’ve they’ve been spending time with simply does not matter.
In fact, what matters is that despite his/her extremely busy schedule they
manage five minutes to talk to you…And if they happen to reply to your text or
IMs with an, “hey! I am so glad you pinged/texted me today” – ah, is it
possible to stay afloat on cloud nine?
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With relationships come
the added dramas of having to meet each other over the weekend, if you’re both
busy with work, college or simply cannot find time to give time to one another.
I personally know way too many people who couldn’t “make it work” thanks to
their conflicting schedules. Just take a peek at the celeb world. So many of
them say they have parted ways due to the fact they could never find enough
time to spend it with one another.
The best part about
having a crush on someone is that they simply have no clue about it – usually.
Unless you’re friends keep teasing you in front of him/her. If only the
guy/girl is totally clueless, they’d not realize why people are giggling,
whispering and saying things with double meanings when they are around. And
admit it – you do like it when people tease you about your crush. There’s
something oddly cute and sweet about the whole deal.
Imagine if your crush
suddenly asks you to hang out with them without any prior notice – well, is it
truly possible to die of happiness? Because that’s the only reaction that comes
to mind when I look back and imagine my crush asking to simply hang out. What’s
the best part about hanging out with your crush? You can go just about
anywhere, and not worry about anything… You don’t have to live up the usual
standards of a typical date. Honestly, what more could one ask for? Do you
still need me to convince you why crushes are way better than having a
relationship?
The last thing that
comes to my mind is, haven’t you often heard people say the best time in their
relationship was right before it officially began? That’s the time they’re both
crushing on each other. Psychologists say that if crushes last more than four
months, it is love… No wonder my crushes last less than one month!
There are people who
make it a point to keep their sparks flying in their relationships and hats off
to them for that. but for the rest of us, I still say, harboring a crush is way
better that trying to make a relationship work.
Guest posted by Aniesha :)
